My onelittleword for 2024;
After an extremely traumatic 2023 finding a word for 2024 wasn't hard at all. I barely struggled with it. And everything that I do within 2024 will reflect this word. Much harder than I've ever done in previous years. Because my healing, my mental health, is not just for me but for my girls too.
Going back to being the mom that I said I'd be when Tums was born. Working hard to avoid situations that'll make me relapse. Avoiding people who seem to be dead set on triggering me and pushing me off my path. And staying away from people who try to tell me what to do or what choices I should be making. People who tell me that my kids "shouldn't" be here are def not people I want to be around.
Making my silence more of a priority. Not answering my phone and not feeling bad for doing so. I don't need to reply to every message, text or phone call. Especially if I really don't want to.
And if this makes me sound selfish, then I guess that makes me selfish but I'm literally done caring. Because nothing is more important than MY happiness and my girls having a mom who isn't always in a bad mood.
I haven't put much thought into any specific resolutions, just focusing on getting better and recovering my mental health. I've gone way too long letting it suffer and enduring the opinions of other people. I need to get back into taking control of my life and what I want instead of worrying about upsetting other people cause that isn't the move and I don't know why I ever thought it was. In the end the ones to suffer were my girls and I'm never letting that happen again.
Wow, I thought I had posted this here... but I guess I didn't. Whoops. That's a first of missing it.
2021 was better than 2020 for sure.
I got to see my BFF and spend my birthday with her at Disney World after not seeing her for 15 years. I also got to see my girl Alexis and it was our 10 year anniversary since our Disney College Program. It was so nice to see them both. I also got to go back in November for Christmas time stuff as well as hit Universal Studios where I met up with my friend Angely. She's so fun to be around! I'm glad I was able to see her!
The end of 2021 was unexpected for lack of better word. I opened up my shop and it did really well the first and second month. I mean it did pretty well all the rest of the year but the sales I made exceeded what I thought would happen. I'm thankful for the sales and the learning process that it took to launch my shop. It's been fun learning... well... everything. And having another outlet to express myself.
I got to spend more time with my Kuya Dru despite his crazy work schedule. Me and this dude have a crazy friendship history that spans all the way back to when we were 14 and freshmen in high school. I'm absolutely thankful for all these years of friendship (23 years of having to deal with my bullshit... and it's been a lot of bullshit) and having his guidance and company.
This year I want to focus more on balance.
Which is something I've struggled with especially since giving birth. I'm thankful for the ways I learned how to create balance between being a mother to a very active toddler and balancing a whole ass business. I lost a lot of sleep... but it was def worth it.
I want to focus more on balancing the things I want out of life and making them happen. 2021 showed me I'm capable of the things I know I'm capable of... I just have to want it and manifest it and keep my vision clear and unclouded -- that's the hard part.
Here's to 2022 and working more on myself and creating the life I want.
Did you pick a word for 2022? I'd love to know if you did in the comments below!
I can't believe it's 2019... already.
But then again how many of us are saying that this week?!
Every year for the last few years I've done {onelittleword} and for the last 2 years Bubba has chosen my word for me — this year he picked L E A R N as my word for 2019.
As new parents (I can't believe she'll be here in a few months! It's so crazy to think about!) this year we're going to do a lot of learning and I'm determined to not be one of those parents who let their newborn change their life as drastically as everyone says they will.
I've never been friends with the concept of sleep; to be honest I've probably gotten more sleep since BEING pregnant, despite all the discomforts than I've gotten naturally since 2004. Like my biggest excitement is the ability to fall asleep at night WITHOUT sleeping aids as I've been heavily dependent on them to get me to sleep since 2004. Me and sleep just haven't gotten along in a really long time.
In addition to being new parents I really want to get back into learning in general. I still need to learn the rest of French and I want to start learning Spanish. I want to relearn the social media world as well as how to make the most out of my blogging and getting back into graphic design. I want to learn how to bake. How to cook better meals. How to be a better version of myself.
There's much power in knowledge and I feel like the last few years I've been in a haze of just winging things; I want to go back to being that determined person with goals and intention.
It's that time of the year again...
Where we talk about #onelittleword.
This year my word is [ g r o w ].
- Read 36 books
- Blog more
- Take more pictures
- Be more organized
- Find more joy
- Try 5 new restaurants
- Learn more French
- Work on fixing everything --- one thing at a time
So this year I decided on the word...
F O C U S
Are you doing #onelittleword too? What word did you choose? And if not what are your goals for 2016?
BLOGGING GOALS
→ Hit 300 followers on Twitter
→ Hit 300 followers on Instagram
→ Hit 500 followers on Facebook
→ Write more reviews
→ Get on a steady schedule
→ Touch up "About Me" page
→ Update layout theme to match the season
→ Have an idea of blogging content from now until December
→ Be more active on social media
→ Get back to networking (actually my favorite part)
PERSONAL GOALS
→ Read at least eight books this month
→ Get bills in order
→ Get WG in order
→ Tidy apartment
→ Turn in homework at least 3 days early
→ Drink more water
→ Learn. To. Budget. (I know, it's an ugly word but it has to be done)
→ Get back to meditation and night/morning yoga
→ Clear out B&BW candles
→ Create a ZEN atmosphere
→ Study gems and relay on their energy for help
→ Understand that if you need a day alone Nick WILL understand
→ STAY POSITIVE
I know this is a pretty long and probably unrealistic set of goals to accomplish by the end of the month. But hey, you know me! Most of my lists are! I just want to strive to be more productive, more focused and feeling better. Emotionally, mentally and physically. I still have a ton of healing to do due to my divorce but you know what, life won't stop for you. Life won't stop for anyone. Yeah the resentment and angry and sadness will be there but that doesn't mean I have to entertain it. That doesn't mean I have to allow it to get to me. I live a pretty darn good life and I have nothing to be mad or upset about. So my marriage didn't work out. So he's dating the chick who ruined our marriage and lives in another country. So they both never respected me anyway. I mean, these are all things that everyone --- including myself --- were already putting together so why is it all so surprising? Why should I let something that I assumed hurt just because now it's confirmed? And bottom line really is who cares? Life. Goes. On. and I refuse to spend another month, another week, another day, another minute of my life and my time giving something so worthless my energy.
So here's to a productive and focused Fall, welcome back Hazel.
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